Zefi & Ody

“Love is a war. And I need a soldier.

I need someone that would go to hell & back for me. Someone who won’t fold under the pressure. Someone who won’t quit when it gets a little tough.

That’s when you know you’ve found something special. Something real. Something worth keeping.

Anybody can love anybody when things are good. Real love stands the test of time, the test of loyalty & the test of faith. I need someone that will lace up their boots & fight for me. After all, anything worth having is worth fighting for & he is my soldier.”

“She is not perfect. But all those imperfect parts, it’s me she showed them to, and I am now a part of them.  All those imperfect parts, I know them all like the back of my hand & I couldn’t imagine my world without them. That. That there is love.”

We fight. And you know, not everything’s perfect always and this is actually what “perfect” is.

We both work 10-12 hours per day to make a living and to makes ends meet.

And like many other couples in today’s society, there are periods in our life when we have everything & periods when we really struggle.

There are days when we have more time on our hands than needed and days when the only time we have together is when we fall asleep.

Together we have had the best & worst days. We have been next to each other in all shapes and forms that life has offered us so far.

There is no true “love at first sight” or just one person out there I don’t think. Love is like an algorithm, there are just so many true ways you can love someone, and you never know how life will turn out, it’s silly to think you can control situations….experiences….the future.

But when you find someone you feel so truly deeply madly about, than you go for it, for as long as it lasts, and you give it your all. You don’t try to find perfect. This word doesn’t exist. All you need is real.

We don’t believe in marriage in the traditional sense. The marital paper doesn’t actually mean anything to us. Marriage as a sense has shifted in the “today” we live in, it is no longer that society actually requires it as was the case in our mother’s &grandmother’s days. But getting married is something we choose for us and even though we are both the type of girl and boy with tattoos and piercings and electro music festivals and camping outside and skinny bathing we are also full of romance and small gestures and sweet words and we still want our wedding day to have all those fundamental traditional aspects bound together with our style and way of living.

Marriage is ugly, you see the absolute worst in someone. You see them when they are mad, sad, and stubborn. You see them at their most unlovable. But you also get to see them when they are laughing so hard they have tears running down their face. You see them at 4 am when the whole world is asleep, you get to see a side of them that no one else does and maybe it’s not always pretty, you get to see the burping and the farting and the anger and the joy.

Maybe it’s not always beautiful but it definitely is amazing and you don’t have to believe in everything in the traditional sense to believe in that.

Our Favorite Memory as a couple

“You can’t really put your finger on it and choose just one but if we absolutely had too than it would be that first look, while we were exchanging vows, with our favorite faces joining and being part of that. That was the moment we probably felt everything so real and so much. It was just a feeling of love and freedom.”

Our Advice to Those Planning Now

“Enjoy every minute of it. From the first day you start discussing and planning have fun with it, follow your instincts and choose things that feel represent you as a couple to give that personal spin on things. If you want something go for it and if it feels right for you than just do it….and definitely trust your planner. We did and everything just ended up exceeding our expectations way more than we expected.”